You Abandoned Me with a Cockroach: A Love Story

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It was 7:30 one Thursday morning and I was sound asleep, curled up like a potato bug in my girlfriend’s pink and purple bed.  I can’t say with much accuracy exactly what I was dreaming of, although, given my dream history, it probably involved either playing with a big bunny or losing my teeth.  In other words, my attention was fully absorbed in something exciting.  I’d gone to bed at 1:00 the night before, and my alarm was set accordingly, programmed for 9:00 so that I would be getting the standard 8 hours of sleep that every human must have.  That’s a requirement.  Go under that number and you will be exhausted; go over it and you will officially be a lazy bum.

Suddenly, a harsh, loud, pounding noise pulled me from my rest.  It was my girlfriend, slamming on something by the kitchen sink.  My head hurt and my vision was blurry.  I longed to go back to losing my teeth.

“What the heck are you doing?” I asked.

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“I’m opening this coconut,” she said.  She had a coconut in one hand and was banging on it with a giant hammer like she was John Henry workin’ on the railroad track.

“What?” I moaned.

“I want to drink the coconut water,” she said, and proceeded to keep whacking away at the thing.  I briefly entertained the thought of going back to sleep.  The coconut had no quit, though.  As opposed to helping my cause by just plain breaking open, the stubborn thing refused to yield, remaining as impenetrable as a bank vault, and so I gave up and dragged myself out of bed.

Sleep is an important part of my life.  I do it every day and often look forward to it. Being in a relationship is also important, although it sometimes makes sleeping a lot harder.  Since I’m happy in my relationship, I try to accept not getting enough sleep or being woken up.  Sure, it’s a little annoying, but it’s more imperative to be a good boyfriend.  I try.  I’m generally supportive, spend lots of quality time with my girl, and often tell her that she’s beautiful.  Too often in today’s society, women feel that men only want them for their personalities – I like to remind my girlfriend that I also love her for her physical appearance.

What I’m getting at is this: If one had to choose but one thing, would one choose love or sleep?  It’s not a very interesting question, as this is typically not a decision a person must make.  There are times, though, when it’s as paramount as anything.  In the instance of the coconut, I suppose I could’ve gotten grumpy and told her to be quiet.  I didn’t want to be that guy, though, and so I chose instead to let it go.  I chose love over sleep.  Also, I don’t want my girlfriend to feel controlled or inhibited in any way.  If she wants to smash open coconuts with a sledgehammer at 7:30 in the morning, she has the right to make that decision.  Just as I have the right to purchase coconut water in a can and present it to her shortly before throwing her hammer in the Han River.

On another occasion, though, I had a bit more difficulty dealing with the love/sleep dilemma.  It was on a weeknight, and I was stressed because I had an especially hard day ahead of me at work.  My girlfriend, as she always is, was impeccably sweet and comforting.  Around 1:00, I decided to call it a night and shut my eyes.  Two hours later, I was woken by the blaring sound of my girlfriend’s security system.

I would feel so embarrassed trying to describe the Korean thief to a sketch artist.

“Baby?!” I hollered, shooting up in bed.  The door slammed.  The security alarm was still going off.  My girlfriend was not in the bed with me.  The room was dark and my head started spinning.  What the hell was going on?  I wondered if I was going to have to fight somebody, and tried to remember where the giant hammer was kept.  Just then, the door re-opened, with my girlfriend standing in its outline like I was looking at a photograph of her in a picture frame.  She typed in a few numbers and the alarm went off.

“Sorry,” she said.  She was fully dressed.  “I have to go to the store.”

“The store?  Now?”  I looked at my phone.  It was 3:15 in the morning.

“I saw a cockroach in the bathroom,” she said.  “I can’t sleep.  I have to go get repellent.”

No one has the right to be afraid of cockroaches until after they’ve seen that last segment of Creepshow.

My girlfriend’s apartment is nice and clean, and she likes it that way.  The presence of a cockroach was too much to stand.  It had to die, and it had to die now.

“Can’t this wait until later?” I begged.  “I really need to sleep.”

“No,” she said.  “I can’t stay in here with the cockroach.”

“Maybe it’s friendly,” I said.  “You really have to go now?”  She nodded.  “Well, I won’t be able to sleep with you awake and fighting bugs.  I’m going to walk back to my place, then.”

I can’t explain precisely how my mind was working.  It was very decisive, sort of like a dog’s.  When a dog’s owner throws a stick and tells him to fetch, he either goes or he doesn’t.  A dog never stops to ponder, thinking about his owner and asking himself, “If I don’t go fetch, how will that make him feel?”  All I wanted was to sleep, and so I put on my clothes and left.  I split.  I chose sleep.

My girlfriend sent me a text message the next morning.  It said, “I can’t believe you abandoned me with a cockroach.”

All made up.

Yes, yes I did.  It’s one thing to abandon your girlfriend; leaving her alone with an insect makes it worse.  If it wasn’t for sleep, I feel none of this would’ve happened.  That’s my defense.  Luckily, we were able to work out the abandonment incident and I was able to return to her apartment, which is now equipped with a cockroach patch.

This morning, I was again yanked from sleep by a loud sound.  In the alley in front of my girlfriend’s place, people walk around with wheelbarrows, picking up recyclables that they can sell.  Today I was woken by the grating screech of someone’s wheelbarrow tires; it was as though he was barreling along and a cat or a small child ran in front of his wheelbarrow and he had to slam on the brakes to avoid vehicular homicide.  My eyes snapped open, my brain confused.  But there was my girlfriend, with her head tucked up against my chest.  My arms were around her shoulders and hers were around my waist.  Our legs were intertwined.  The wheelbarrow also woke her up, and her sleepy eyes looked up and met mine.  It was, really, the most beautiful way to start a day.  The morning sun came in through the window and everything was quiet again.

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16 thoughts on “You Abandoned Me with a Cockroach: A Love Story

  1. Junbi

    Id want to believe id pick love over sleep. Except that if you go without sleep for something like five days youll die, and ive gone without love for, like, twice that.

    • Ten days without love? That’s crazy Junbi. I don’t know how you managed. But yeah, sleep and food are probably reasonable things to put over love, maybe. Shelter too, maybe? Also showering, I guess. Just thinking out loud now. Take care, Junbi! Get some rest!

  2. I’m a little ashamed to say I would pick sleep over love. This is because I have severe insomnia due to illnesses an meds, and sleep every third night if I am lucky… I have gone six days with no sleep. I was a manic zombie scaring everyone including myself:( I have gone much longer withouth love and although it sucks, it’s much more bearable:)
    I found a cockroach in my bathtub when I worked in Walt Disney World. I went immediately to the “office” and said that it better not be there when I got home. (I had demobilized it by pouring shampoo and conditioner on it) and it wasn’t :) I hate them:(

    • Lol, Hyperhege! This is such a groovy comment. Insomnia, zombies, cockroaches and Disney. I am grateful that I have never had insomnia or anything remotely like it; I am told that it’s hell. Six days seems brutal. You poor thing! I’ll sing you a lullaby if that’ll help. : )

      So, Walt Disney World houses its employees? That’s really cool. I’m fighting the urge to make the lame and obvious joke about having a mouse in your apartment…ooh, guess I just kind of did it anyways. Hey, I’ll say this: considering that I thought a person had broken into my girlfriend’s apartment, finding out that it was a cockroach was a pretty big relief. From what I understand, you cannot demobilize a person with shampoo and conditioner.

      Peace, Hyper!

      • Yeah Walt Disney has appartment complexes for everyone working in the international program or the college program. You share an appt with 1, 3, 5 or 7 people (share bed/bathroom with one) and it used to cost me 67$ a week (I lived in a six people appt, the smaller ones were 79$ a week) and electricity was included, washing machines, all that. And we had a tv that my chinese roomate left there! It was a 22″ crt but we were very happy with it :)
        Haha yeah it would maybe disorient them though? Enough so that you have time to find that hammer? :)

      • Man, I wanna live at Disney World. That sounds like a dream. It would be kind of weird to bring somebody back though. I imagine there wasn’t a lot of hooking up going on at the Disney World apartment complex…and if so…I might find that morally wrong. haha

      • Yeah well the appts are for one gender only though. But there was a lot of hooking up actually! My one roomate from Japan, Yukari, met a french person and she married him and they are living in France now :) And one of my best friends from Norway met a german boy and they live togheter in Oslo now.
        The appartment complexes are HUGE, I mean we were 120-130 people from each of the 11 countries in Epcot, then you had all the people from Asia and Africa working in Animal Kingdom, then again all the American College students working there. There were 3 different ones. The Commons (where I lived) Chatham Square and Vista Way. They added a new one four years ago. The Commons had about 1000 people living in 28 houses with 12-18 appts in all of them. So parties were an everyday thing! Not for me seeing as I can’t really drink due to medical issues.
        It was AMAZING tho! :)
        Do more than imagine – live the dream! is their slogan! :D

      • Shit, I think there’s a really great screenplay to be written from this. Maybe a sort of coming of age comedy about people living in the Disney apartments or a splatter horror slasher flick set there. The possibilities are endless!

  3. Korea is not a good place for sleep. The first time my hubs and I heard the loudspeaker trucks advertising computers and TVs at 7AM, we jumped out of bed and thought that North Korea was attacking.

      • Hey Waiting! Yes, you’re absolutely right. Totally out of the blue there will be some announcement blaring from a speaker somewhere at the crack of dawn, and since I don’t know the language, it’s pretty disorienting.

        I can see how parenthood is the ultimate sleep sacrifice. Obviously you made the right choice, as your daughter is adorable and will grow up to be an excellent ESL teacher at a Hogwon in Dongincheon. : D

  4. When I was a kid, my family rented a cottage at the beach. Around at 2 in the morning, I woke up to use the bathroom. I flipped on the light, and a crowd of cockroaches went scurrying in every direction. The next day, my dad went out a bought traps. I still have fond memories of our stay that week that did not involve the infestation because hey, mini-golf, ice cream, lobster rolls, and boogie boards!

    • That’s terrifying. One cockroach I can deal with, but a crowd of them scurrying about makes my skin crawl. I wouldn’t have bought traps, I would’ve bought a flame thrower. You are a brave person to still have a good time after that. I would’ve sat in my room and cried all week. ; )

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